What About Me?
Part One - Marriage
Marriage? What is it about? ... Serving. Doing for each other. When courtship begins, a man cannot do enough for her and She cannot do enough for him. Without realizing it , they are serving each other, pleasing each other. God is about serving!
When arguments begin in a marriage, it is because of conflict and conflict comes from a difference of opinion. But where does the "difference of opinion come from?" Its root comes from a single thought, "What about me?"
Think about it for a moment. Conflict, man against wife? Businessman against Businessman? Property Owner against Property Owner? State against State? Country against Country? Terrorists against established entities? It all stems from "What about me?" The man against his wife. What about me is the difference. What can I get out of it? Still, it is the samething that drives them to conflict. "What about me?"
What are the most prevalent problems that are in America today for that matter the world? and they are a matter of record.
Two things: Terrorist Activities, and Divorce. Both are Moral issues and both come from "What about me?"
Both actions stem from the same source! Both actions come from the same thought process! "What about me?" It causes insecurity, and insecurity causes doubt, and doubt causes division, and division causes destruction.
Now, Where do those attributes come from? Is it from "God"? Ask yourself, Is God the supporter of insecurity? of doubt? of division? or destruction? No, God is a supporter of security. Of Trust. Of Unity. and of Building Relationships not destroying them. Especially between a man and wife. What about me is not from God! for it comes from wanting to be served! Not from wanting to serve ! Yes, it comes from he who is opposite what God stands for, The devil. "What about me, is evil.
So what is the answer? When seeing a marriage, also think of relationships, think of conflict in the areas above and see if you can see the solution?
"What about Him? or Her?" This is of the Lord, this is of God, servitude. Look at what happens. The man, instead of thinking "What about me, starts to think "what about her?" What can I do to please her? And so he starts to change his thinking into ways of pleasing her and what she wants. He forgets totally about himself and the selfish thoughts, and just thinks and does things to please her. And vice versa . She, instead of thinking what about me starts to think "What about him?" And so she starts to change her thinking into ways of pleasing him and what He wants. Servitude is the order of the day, everyday. What happens? Arguments are decreased because tension is decreased. Tensions decreased it is easier to cope with the problems of daily life and marriage. The Family unit is preserved and actually strengthened. Oh And What about me? Where did it go? I have to snicker, because it got tossed out the window, for What about him? And What about her? came into the picture and kicked what about me out.
So that which is for number 1, is against unity in marriage. That which is for ME first, is against unity period. That which is for the " I " generation, Number #1, step on anyone's toes to get where "I" want to be, is against unity. Why ? Because it causes separation, it causes strife, and it causes disharmony by its very nature of competition.
If your marriage is in trouble? Ask yourself, "Am I thinking, what about me?" 99 times out of 100 the answer will be yes. And then ask yourself, "Is my spouse thinking, what about me?" The answer will be yes. But you cant change that directly. You will have to do that through example. But, change will come. Slowly at first until they realize what you are doing, and when they start to do it back to you.. :) Lookout.
By changing our thinking from "What about me" to "What about them" it will indeed change our
marriages, change our families into strong institutions, change our working environments, change our governments
from controlling the people, to serving the people again as it should be. To Changing countries and bringing Peace
back to the earth for real.
Now, if you noticed, there is not one scripture that I needed to quote. There was a reason for this. Now I will only quote one. For the whole world. For whether it be concerning Marriage, family, city, county, state or national or International relationships or even terrorists. It applies.
Luke 22:24-27 "And there was also a strife among them, which of them should be accounted the greatest. and he said unto them, "The kings of the gentiles exercise lordship over them; and they that exercise authority upon them are called benefactors. But ye shall not be so: but he that is greatest among you, let him be as the younger; and he that is chief, as he that doth serve. For whether is greater, he that sitteth at meat, or he that serveth? is not he that sitteth at meat? But I am among you as he that serveth."
Husbands? Which way should we be? He that is to be served? Or He that does the serving?
Wives? Which way should you be? She that is to be served? Or She that does the serving?
Ministers? Which way should we be? They that are served? or They that serve?
And Finally, Those who are in Authority? Which way should you be? They that are served? or They that serve?
The Lord God, Jesus Christ came not to be served, but to serve.. we should be the same.
James Banfield
(C) 11/04
USA
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